11 March 2013 0 Comments

Divorce & children

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It is of no surprise that children have difficulty maintaining a good relationship with both parents after an emotional turmoil of separation. Experts in child abuse have noted a natural tendency of children to relate to adults, which makes them more vulnerable to abuse.

Therefore, the rejection of a parent is simply the result of that parent’s failure and abusiveness. Parental rejection has a direct correlation with a separation, which is a process rooted in painful feelings of guilt and blame. The level of animosity between the parents in most cases will be high and although the child may mask his or her pain heroically, the parents need to get over the rage and frustration stemming for the failed marriage and work together to get past the child’s resistance.

The notion that a child will want a relationship with a parent no matter what is misleading. A parent-child relationship needs to be developed, just as any other relationship and it must evolve over a series of varying activities and elements.

Despite the pain, stress, and emotional setbacks, children may naturally feel inclined to reject one or both parents. But this doesn’t mean that parents should accept this as a norm.

Divorced parents much develop a plan based on the child’s status and needs. The child’s age, the location, financial support, etc are all factors that need to be taken into account in order to have a successful parent-child relationship.

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