20 December 2013 0 Comments

Help Your Teen Cope With Divorce

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When parents go through a divorce, it is not only hard on the parents but the children as well, especially teenagers.

When a teenager tries to cope with a divorce, the first thing they may try and do is place blame. Sometimes they believe they were to blame because of their grades or behavior.

What you need to do to prevent this self-blame from happening is to be honest about the reasons for the divorce. It is important for your child to know that it was nothing they did or did not do that caused the divorce. While you don’t have to divulge every detail, being as honest as possible will keep your teen from blaming his or herself for the split.

The divorce rate in California and the United States is very high – over half the marriages end in divorce – leaving troubled teens to try and resolve the issue. Teenagers go through so much and when their parents decide to divorce, it gives them just another problem to deal with.

Helping them through a family divorce stabilizes the transition when approached in just the right way. There are so many things you can do to help your child and the following tips can make a significant difference:

  1. Provide an accepting community. Teens who are involved in a divorce need stability. Safe, nurturing relationships provided by friends, relatives, classmates, teaches, etc. can support them in this time of need.
  2. Let them talk. Teens need a sounding board. Let them share their feelings and thoughts on a regular basis. Be patient and know that their feelings may change one hour to the next. However, one essential need remains the same: They need to be heard.
  3. Help kids see the long view. Adolescents generally have trouble seeing the future, and those involved in a divorce can become stuck in the here and now. Help them to see that even though life will be very different, people eventually adjust and grow as time passes. Their hearts will heal.

Every teenager copes with divorce differently, but in order to help them through the trauma, it is important that you do all you can to ensure their continued emotional development. Even though it’s going to be a hard time for all concerned, teens are at the greatest risk for depression and emotional upset. Get professional help, someone who can guide you and your family though the emotional strain of divorce.

If you are going through a divorce, contact the family law offices of Holstrom, Sissung, Marks & Anderson. Our attorneys are dedicated to providing you expertise and guidance in family law matters and making the outcome as successful as possible. We are conveniently located in Riverside, San Bernardino and Orange Counties.

Riverside Office

7121 Magnolia Ave.
Riverside, CA 92504

Call us for a free phone consultation (951) 274-9448, we will help you determine if you have a case.

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