10 April 2013 0 Comments

How to control your emotions during your divorce

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As one divorce expert explains, emotion is stronger than thought. Even if we know we should have a measured response to something — particularly when it could affect other people such as our children – we sometimes are more or less overcome by feelings. It all comes down to brain activity and what areas of our minds are activated at various times.

The emotional response someone might feel comes from the amygdalae, which generates a sort of primitive fight-or-flight instinct from deep within the brain. By contrast, the prefrontal cortex is the area that generally holds behavior management and logic. The problem is that when the amygdalae activate, the prefrontal cortex can get essentially shouted down. The divorce expert shared a few tips to keep things in check:

  • Recognize the signs of stress. If you recognize that things are getting out of control, you can start to rein them back in.

  • Exercise. Moving around can shake the cobwebs, so to speak, and calm our emotions.

  • Relax. When exercise isn’t an option, rest and meditation can be valuable tools to get our heads straight again.

In addition, consulting with an experienced divorce attorney — who can be a stabilizing force when you feel overcome with feelings — can make a big difference in your emotional health and ultimate success with a post-divorce life.

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