14 May 2014 0 Comments

How to “Win” your Divorce?

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Going through a divorce can be a really trying time in most people’s lives. Many may only be able to focus on what they are losing, and subsequently only care about finalizing the divorce as quickly as possible. However, could it be possible to “win” a divorce? As challenging as the process may be, it could be possible to “succeed” at divorce. By simply employing a few ideas to alter your mindset, you could come out of the other side of your divorce on top.

The first step to succeeding at divorce is to cut out negative people. Acknowledge and recognize those who only seem to focus on the negative aspects of your divorce; then, recognize that internalizing those opinions are only serving to bring you down and further stress you out. Choose to not engage with these people and their negative ideas. If necessary, stop seeing them entirely until your divorce is finalized and you feel you have the energy and mindset to talk with them again. Once the negative voices are silenced, replace them with your own positive thinking.

Once you feel you are in a positive place mentally, try to visualize what it is you want to achieve from your divorce. You might even want to create a list of goals. Instead of falling into the trap of just “getting through” the divorce, play a proactive role in the process. There is a lot to consider when going through a divorce, and a lot at stake. If you have a concrete idea of what it is you want, it helps to focus your mind and streamline the process for you.

Lastly, it is important to stay true to your values during the process. Some people tend to get caught up in the negative side of a divorce, and they come out the other side feeling as if they really hurt their ex, or that they made the process hard on their children. Remember your goals and what it is you are trying to achieve. You may be tempted to “play dirty” to achieve your goals, but try to take the high road. In the end, staying true to your values will benefit you much more.

A divorce process can get ugly; it is easy to get consumed by the negative aspects and get lost in the process. If you allow yourself to get caught up, you could risk coming out of the divorce feeling angry, hurt, or as if you didn’t get closure. Allow yourself to distance yourself from negative people and opinions, as they don’t have your best interests in mind. Keep a clear list of goals in mind, so you stay focused on what you want to achieve. And don’t forget who you are; stay true to your values, and you won’t risk coming out of the divorce with negative feelings. Stay positive and focused, and you could leave your divorce feeling peace and closure- and even victory!

For more information or you are ready to start your divorce process, contact a family law and divorce law firm near you.

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