21 October 2013 0 Comments

The Do’s & Don’ts Of Mediation

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Are you thinking of going into mediation to deal with your custody issues that resulted from your divorce? Are you overwhelmed and don’t know what to do? Don’t worry; you’re not alone.

Mediation can provide a great alternative to litigation. It allows both parties to negotiate and determine the terms of their custody agreement – with the help of a third, neutral party. However, like anything else, the success or failure rests on how well each party can handle confrontation and cooperate with each other during the process.

This is not a time to place your needs above those of your child’s. Even though a custody agreement can be emotionally challenging, you must focus on the best interests of your child.

Following are a few tips that can make the custody process a little easier and more effective:

The Do’s

  • Always act politely and civilly to each other regardless of how you feel
  • Begin with issues that you both agree on
  • Be willing to compromise and concede on certain areas of disagreement
  • Try to understand your ex’s point of view

The Don’ts

  • Don’t antagonize your ex by calling him or her names or using insults, being rude
  • Don’t stick to your guns – you will have to make compromises and concessions
  • Don’t place blame
  • Don’t ignore your ex’s concerns

One thing divorce does not change is your being a parent. Child custody mediation can save you time, money and added emotional distress. Having a custody case drag out in a courtroom is something a parent wants to avoid. Wouldn’t you rather come to a mutual agreement within the less intimidating, more intimate confines of a mediation session?

If you have questions and concerns regarding whether or not child custody mediation is the answer to your problems, contact an experienced family law attorney at the offices of Holstrom, Sissung, Marks & Anderson – conveniently located in Riverside and Orange Counties.

Call us today so we can help you understand your options.

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